Being a Boy

Lirisha Tuladhar

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We all have a phase in life where we all wished we were a boy. We think that maybe being a boy would be a lot easier. But is it really easy for boys? Is it really like what we think? Boys are said to be tougher. They can roam freely at night. They can come home anytime, eat anything and do anything just because they are boys. This is what we think about what being a boy is. But is it true that boys can do anything?

As I observe the masculine body of our society closely, I came to know that even being a boy is not that easy. Since a day a boy is born, he is taught to be a man. He is said to be the most responsible person in the family. He is taught to be strong and bold. Not only this, the society don’t even allow him to cry just because he is a boy.

As he gets older, he should stand up for himself. If someone comes to fight with him, he should be bold enough to beat him and if he don’t do that, he is again said to be a loser. Not only for himself, if a guy next door insults his sister, he should be the one to protect her self-esteem and self-worth. It also mean protecting his way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that he and his family value.

No one realizes that even boys go through mood swings. They too go through body pressures. During the puberty, like girls have menstruation even boys have erection and wet dreams. They too go through some embarrassing moments like girls do. When the puberty hits him hard, he only knows the struggle in that phase.

Most people believe that being a boy (man) means supporting a family financially which mean much more than that. A man should also contribute to the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well-being of his family. He is also regarded as the provider for the family which is not an easy job to do.

Being a boy is not easy. You are not allowed to cry. You are not allowed to tell that your favorite color is pink. Your favorite movie genre must be action and thriller as romantic, drama is all girly. You need to go to the gym, lift some weights, build some muscles and be strong. I even have heard people saying that cooking is not for boys when the world’s best chief is a man. Like girls, even boys are not allowed to choose a passion they prefer.

Therefore, in my opinion, there is no such thing as being a boy is easy and being a girl is not. Both boys and girls have different difficulties in life. They both has to go through a lot of obstacles in their pathway. So, we should stop believing upon the myth that girls are vulnerable and boys are strong and independent and make our younger generation learn that being a boy or girl doesn’t matter as they both are equal- being one doesn’t make life easier as both faces many hardships in life.


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